Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy
Boundary Work in Therapy
If saying no feels unsafe, or if your boundaries collapse the moment they meet resistance, you are not weak. You are responding from an old map. Boundary work in therapy helps you build limits that come from clarity, not fear or guilt.
Who this is for
- People who over-give, over-explain or over-apologise
- Adults caught between guilt and resentment
- Anyone whose 'no' shows up too late, too sharp or not at all
- Clients leaving high-conflict family or relational systems
Common signs and challenges
- Saying yes when you mean no, then resenting it later
- Physical anxiety when you imagine disappointing someone
- Difficulty knowing what you actually want or need
- Apologising for taking up space
- Feeling responsible for other people's emotions
How therapy may help
Therapy doesn't guarantee outcomes, but with consistent, trauma-informed work many clients experience meaningful change in these areas.
- Notice the cues you usually override
- Distinguish guilt from genuine wrongdoing
- Set limits earlier, without rage or collapse
- Stay grounded when someone pushes back
- Build relationships where your no is allowed
Mia's approach
Boundary problems are rarely a skill issue, they are a nervous-system issue. Using NARM® and Emotion-Focused Therapy, we work with the protective patterns that make 'no' feel dangerous, so a real boundary becomes possible from the inside out.
Session format
- Online sessions
- Secure video sessions worldwide.
- In person
- Frederiksberg, Denmark (when available).
- Languages
- English, Danish and Persian.
- Length
- 55 minutes per session, package-based.
Frequently asked questions
- Why is it so hard for me to set boundaries?
- Often because, earlier in life, saying no, or even having needs, was unsafe, punished or ignored. Your body remembers that. Boundary work is partly nervous-system work.
- Are boundaries selfish?
- No. Boundaries protect both people in the relationship. They make sustainable closeness possible.
- Do I have to cut people off?
- Not as a first step. Many boundaries are about changing what you tolerate, not ending contact. Sometimes distance or no contact becomes necessary, but it isn't the goal.
- How long does boundary work take?
- Most clients see meaningful change within 8 to 12 sessions, with deeper integration over time.
- Can I bring up boundaries with my family in therapy?
- Yes. Family-of-origin boundaries are one of the most common reasons people come to my practice.
Ready to take the first step?
Book a 55-minute Discovery Call. We'll see if we are the right fit and plan the next step together.