Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy
Self-Sabotage Therapy
Self-sabotage is rarely about laziness or lack of discipline. It is usually a survival pattern, a part of you protecting an earlier wound. Therapy can help you understand the pattern, work with the underlying nervous-system response and stop fighting yourself.
Who this is for
- People who procrastinate or shut down on what matters most
- Adults who pull back from relationships or success when things start going well
- Anyone caught in cycles of shame, self-criticism and self-undermining
- Clients who 'know better' but can't seem to follow through
Common signs and challenges
- Starting strong and then disappearing from your own goals
- Numbing through scrolling, food, work or substances
- A loud inner critic that gets louder near success
- Avoiding visibility, accountability or being seen
- Difficulty receiving care, praise or good things
How therapy may help
Therapy doesn't guarantee outcomes, but with consistent, trauma-informed work many clients experience meaningful change in these areas.
- Understand the protective logic underneath the pattern
- Reduce the grip of shame and self-criticism
- Build self-trust through small, repeated wins
- Develop a kinder, more reliable relationship with yourself
- Take consistent action without burning out
Mia's approach
Self-sabotage almost always has a story. Using NARM® and Emotion-Focused Therapy, we work with the part of you running the pattern, not against it. The goal isn't to override yourself with discipline, but to make the underlying wound less in charge.
Session format
- Online sessions
- Secure video sessions worldwide.
- In person
- Frederiksberg, Denmark (when available).
- Languages
- English, Danish and Persian.
- Length
- 55 minutes per session, package-based.
Frequently asked questions
- Is self-sabotage a trauma response?
- Often, yes. Many forms of self-sabotage are survival patterns that protected you from disappointment, rejection or being seen in earlier environments. They become unhelpful once the original threat is gone.
- Will therapy 'fix' my procrastination?
- Therapy won't give you a productivity hack, but it can change your relationship with the part of you that pulls back, so the pattern loosens its grip over time.
- Is this the same as ADHD?
- Not necessarily. ADHD and trauma can overlap or look similar. We'll explore your specific patterns rather than assume.
- How long does this take?
- Most clients work in 8 or 12-session packages. Lasting change with self-sabotage is rarely a one-month process.
- Do I have to talk about my childhood?
- Only as much as is useful. NARM is present-focused: we look at how the past lives in you now, not at re-telling every memory.
Ready to take the first step?
Book a 55-minute Discovery Call. We'll see if we are the right fit and plan the next step together.